Your Dom 2013
Recently, the practice BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance/submission, sadism-masochism) has generated a great deal of interest among lay-people and academics alike. The best-selling novel and the new film of the same name have helped bring an otherwise stigmatised phenomenon into mainstream awareness. However, this book is apparently not a particularly accurate portrayal of how BDSM is practiced in real life (for example, see this by researcher Justin Lehmiller).
Fortunately, this increased interest in the subject has also been accompanied by some new scientific studies that may help to provide more accurate insight into these practices. In a previous, I discussed a 2013 study that suggests that BDSM practitioners are generally psychologically healthy and that they tend to prefer roles that fit their personalities. In this post, I discuss a newer study that also examined the traits of BDSM practitioners using a somewhat different.
Some of the findings were highly similar, although there were some differences as well that may be worth exploring further to shed more light on the psychology of BDSM. As discussed in my previous post, there has been some quite interesting research looking into the psychological characteristics of BDSM practitioners. Contrary to what has often been assumed, there is no evidence that BDSM practitioners in general suffer from any particular form of psychological disturbance and in fact they seem to be mentally and emotionally well-adjusted (Richters, De Visser, Rissel, Grulich, & Smith, 2008; Wismeijer & van Assen, 2013). I was particularly interested in the findings of a study of Dutch BDSM practitioners (Wismeijer & van Assen, 2013) which included an assessment of their personality traits according to the model. The five factors in this model are,.
Expectations Of A Dominant
These are broad personality characteristics that subsume a larger number of narrower more specific traits. According to this study, practitioners in general, including both dominants and submissives, tended to be higher in and compared to a comparison sample from the general population.
Additionally, participants who preferred the dominant role tended to be lower in and neuroticism compared to submissive participants and to the general population, while, submissives tended to be more extraverted than the general population. Additionally, dominants tended to have higher subjective well-being and were less sensitive to rejection compared to the general population, suggesting that people drawn to the dominant role may be particularly psychologically well adjusted. Regarding personality traits, dominants compared to submissives were lower in emotionality, higher in extraversion, and equal in agreeableness, conscientiousness, openness to experience, and honesty-humility. Additionally, dominants had higher self-esteem, satisfaction with a life, and a greater desire for control, but did not differ from submissives in empathy or altruism. The authors compared the participants’ scores to normative data and found that they were within the ‘normal range’ on honesty-humility, emotionality, extraversion, agreeableness, and conscientiousness. However, submissives but not dominants scored higher than the normative data on openness to experience.
The ‘normative data’ in this case are based on Canadian university students from a previous unrelated study (Lee & Ashton, 2004). This is not an ideal comparison sample but will have to do for the time being. I did my own statistical comparisons with the normative data and found that both dominants and submissives had significantly higher scores in openness to experience compared to the normative data and submissives were significantly higher in conscientiousness. Please consider following me on, or.© Scott McGreal. Please do not reproduce without permission. Brief excerpts may be quoted as long as a link to the original article is provided.Footnote1 For the statistically minded, I performed one-sample t-tests using an online calculator using the normative data as reference norms.
The results for openness to experience were highly significant for both subs and doms, as were those for conscientiousness in subs (p. Wrote:Those drawn to the dominant role.appear. to be self-confident, assertive, and comfortable taking control. Those who are drawn to the submissive role.appear. to be more introverted and emotional, and enjoy surrendering control. Dominants.seem. to have a better opinion of themselves and to be more satisfied with their lives compared to submissives, which might be accounted for due to greater extroversion.Within this scene however, things very often are not what they seem.
Just like in the 'normal' world. Go undercover.
See it with your own eyes. Manipulation is key. As a woman who suffered years of sexual abuse as a child I found BDSM to be very healing for me. I'm pretty sure I am a sexual sadist - as I really do get off on punishing men. That said, I only do that with men who want it and we always play safe. With my husband I am a switch. We trade roles depending on how we feel.
Over the years I've had more partners than I can count. Because I am in a very loving and secure relationship I feel free to experiment and play. Clearly this isn't for everyone - but it works for me. The findings presented in this article don't seem to capture some anecdotal evidence that I have from members of in the BDSM community about the kinds of personality types and disorders occupying each role. I'm going to offer what I thing is a very broad theoretical framework that might be able to test whether my anecdotal evidence is representative.I don't have a background in psychology or the relevant literature, so let me get out of the way that I may be off the mark and irrelevant.In assessing what types of personalities are drawn to BDSM and particular roles, it might be best to:1. Establish a baseline for the relevant general distribution for certain personality types and the relevant disorders: narcissistic personality disorder, depression, co-dependency, etc.
(I think this was done in the above, with some acknowledged limitations.)2. Survey the BDSM community to establish a broad set of scene types in which the dom/sub etc. Relationships manifest; call these scene types S1, S2, S3., Sn.3. Then assess what particular scene types by virtue of their characteristics would naturally allow for or would most naturally/intuitively be conducive towards certain personality traits or disorders to manifest. For instance, a dominant-submission relationship might manifest in scene S1 where slapping and flogging is performed or in a scene S2 where the dom makes the sub have sex with strangers without the dom present. S1 and S2 are manifestly different and the kind of submission and control being exercised in each scene could theoretically be more apt for a certain trait or disorder.4.a Interviews would have to be done with practitioners of these scenes about previous experiences not involving current partners so reporting data would not be biased by current dom-sub etc commitments and loyalties.
When A Dom Ignores His Sub
Questions about whether people were cheated on, were jealous, felt manipulated outside the bounds of the norms, etc. Would be established, as well as what the particular people liked or disliked about their role in a given scene token or scene type.
(Here a scene token is the instantiation of a scene type. S1 type is flogging; whenever a particular flogging occurs it is a token of the type, that is an instantiation of S1.)4.b Personality and disorder assessment could be performed during or after the interview process within whatever professional and ethical bounds are required to perform such research.5. Then data from 3 and 4 would be compared against 1 within the bounds of 2. The interview data from 4a would help tease out whether false positives or false negatives were present for a given scene type. In other words, assessments of personality types or disorder types would be relativised to a context, i.e., scene type: Scene Sn tends to attract these personality traits/disorders in these roles, but given interviews, we tend to think these data under or over-represent the personality traits/disorders and that these personalities/disorders in particular roles are more likely closer to X% or Y% in Sn; but compared the general population, we see that X% or Y% in Sn is greater or less than expected.
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